#1 Piece of Advice From Elsa, A TMP Marriage Counselor
September 19, 2022
I’m sure a lot of the other therapists might have their own ideas and perspectives. Mine is very simple to say, but hard to do. It is to… drum roll…
Be your authentic, genuine self. Just be yourself.
People think, ‘Oh, well, I already do that and that’s not going to fix my marriage.’ But I do believe it will.
The reason I believe that is when your partner is being their authentic, genuine self and you are being your authentic, genuine self, we come together and truly get to know each other. That’s where emotional intimacy is made.
Now, I know it’s sometimes hard to be yourself. Again, easier said than done, right? It’s hard to be yourself because you get angry and you start rolling your eyes and being sarcastic. Or, you are scared of what your partner might say or do. You might feel judged. You might feel criticized. You might withhold your authentic, genuine self because you fear it will start an argument.
Through counseling, learning and gaining awareness, you’re able to learn to be your authentic, genuine self rather than a reactive, placating, pleading, angry version of yourself.
There’s a lot more that goes to learning to be your authentic self. It starts with being aware and mindful. If you’re interested in learning more, give us a call.
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