Saving Your Relationship in the Post-Pandemic Recession: Expert Tips to Overcome Stress and Strain
March 14, 2023
Relationships have been put to the test more in the past two years than we’ve seen in decades. Covid brought new stressors that effectively tore families apart. I’ve seen multiple reports that the divorce rate is a whopping 34% higher in 2021 than years prior. Now, before we can even fully recover from a worldwide pandemic, we’re being hit again with different stressors due to the economy and job fears.
When we are afraid and stressed, the worst of us comes out to the people that we love the most. Some of you know exactly what I’m talking about – your significant other has become distant, disengaged, and possibly even physically absent. Nothing feels so helpless and so powerless as waiting to see if the most important relationship that you have is going to end or fall apart.
I’ve been there myself. My husband and I were exactly in this place about 15 years ago, and we were told that if one of us wants out, it’s pretty hopeless. In our case, the one who wanted out was me. My husband felt so much anxiety around the possibility of me leaving our marriage, that he ended up doing and saying things that only made things worse. He was pushing me out further and faster than if he had done nothing. Fortunately, things changed. He changed. I changed. We both changed, and today our marriage is stronger than it’s ever been.
That’s the good news I want to share with you. You need to hear that even if it feels really hopeless and things feel almost certainly doomed, it doesn’t have to end that way. I have an excellent team of coaches and counselors that I have personally trained who know how to deal with this exact situation.
It’s time for you to start focusing on what you can control, taking a look at how you have participated in the dynamics in your relationship that have brought it where it is now. That doesn’t mean it’s all your fault. It does however mean that you have to own your part in it. And to do that, you have to fully understand what that part is.
When your partner really sees that kind of change in you, that’s the magic that often makes them turn back around and get interested. They think, “What’s going on here? What’s different?” and they start to trust that something might actually be able to change.That’s because it can, because you can. It’s not easy work and it’s not fast work, but it’s life-changing, relationship-changing work.
We have a track record, a proven track record of working with people just like you and helping them have success in their relationships. What you need right now is support, guidance, and insight. You need someone who knows what to look for, and has the tools to help you be self-reflective and uncover the very best version of you. My coaches know how to work with you in gentle, but firm ways to show you what needs to be done and how to go about doing it.
The worst thing that you can do right now is continue to sit, wait and do nothing; or act out of panic and desperation. Those are real turnoffs that are more likely to facilitate the end of your relationship much sooner. We know how to help and empower you to make changes.
I’m hoping that you’ll just take the step, do something different, and give us a call today.
How healthy is your marriage?
ready to have a conversation?
You may also like:
A lot of the therapy work I do is helping couples and partners understand what their contributions to the relationship are, and how they can start making changes for the better, specifically with communication. Specifically, when communicating with your spouse, it’s important to make sure that you are not part of the problem, but part of the solution.
I bet many of you have already seen the recent Brene’ Brown video making the rounds where she calls out the myth of marriage being a 50/50 partnership.
I get asked a lot how to save a marriage when one spouse is leaning out or is contemplating divorce. Everybody’s situation’s different, but what I’m seeing a lot lately is very concerning to me.