Is your “Team” ready for the Super Bowl? 8 Ways Marriage is like Football
Februray 11, 2022
Your wedding day is not the championship. It’s not a win to make it down the aisle and say “I Do.” Your “Super Bowl” is defeating your biggest opponent yet – DIVORCE. Here are some things your “Team” aka you and your spouse will need:
Who’s your coach? Your therapist. Make sure it’s a good one. If your goal is to fight for your marriage you need one who is pro-marriage! (Hint: WE ARE!)
2. A Play Book
What you need in marriage is solid offense and defense! Check out Kim’s video on ideas for your playbook.
The lead of your offense. The one who directs the play. Someone in the marriage needs to be ready to show up and keep the team on the right path. Get your partner engaged. When issues arise, keep your head and stay calm.
4. Running Back
A good Running Back knows how to avoid being tackled. Know the potential triggers for trouble in your relationship.
5. Wide Receiver
Do you know the signs and signals from your partner when they are seeking a bid for attention, affection, or comfort? Learn the “routes” and be able to catch the pass and deliver!
Mistakes in your marriage will happen. You’re going to have fumbles and missed passes. Take the time to come together and huddle. Learn from the mistakes and create a game plan for moving forward.
7. Strong defense
Have good boundaries from things that could hurt your relationship – in-laws, outside interests, etc.
Know how to score with your partner! Emotionally as well as physically. What makes your spouse feel loved and appreciated? Hurt and alone? What fills their love tank?
Relationships work like any other partnership or team. You need skills, guidance, and an attitude of collaboration to make it successful. Feelings are great, but they only get you so far.
How healthy is your marriage?
ready to have a conversation?
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A lot of the therapy work I do is helping couples and partners understand what their contributions to the relationship are, and how they can start making changes for the better, specifically with communication. Specifically, when communicating with your spouse, it’s important to make sure that you are not part of the problem, but part of the solution.
I bet many of you have already seen the recent Brene’ Brown video making the rounds where she calls out the myth of marriage being a 50/50 partnership.
I get asked a lot how to save a marriage when one spouse is leaning out or is contemplating divorce. Everybody’s situation’s different, but what I’m seeing a lot lately is very concerning to me.