What is a sexless marriage?
March 9, 2018
Do you feel you aren’t getting enough sex in your marriage?
It’s actually a common problem. Listen as Kim talks about what causes a sexless marriage and what you can do if you are in one.
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Let’s talk about how to get the most out of therapy! It’s a really big investment in your time, your money, and your resources, so how can you get the most for your money? Let’s talk about it.
#1 Piece of Advice From Elsa, A TMP Marriage Counselor
I’m sure a lot of the other therapists might have their own ideas and perspectives. Mine is very simple to say, but hard to do. It is to… drum roll… Be your authentic, genuine self. Just be yourself.
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Does Marriage Counseling Work? Counseling is a health tool for the marriage toolbox, however, unless both partners believe that it is the correct tool to apply to the situation, it will not work. It can have the same impact a using a hammer to drive in a screw. If your partner doesn’t look externally for help to resolve marriage issues, it will never work. This is mentioned through my personal experience.
Rick, I think I get where you are coming from on this. Ideally, I think you are right. Having both parties on the same page and willing to commit to counseling – and even more importantly, willing to look at their own stuff – is the best-case scenario. Where I diverge from your opinion though is that, UNLESS both are willing, nothing can be accomplished through counseling for the betterment of the relationship. I disagree. Our counselors, and even more so our coaches, work with individuals looking to change, improve and even rescue, their marriage in situations where their spouse is entirely unwilling to do so. This is a much tougher scenario but it’s not a hopeless one. In fact, you’d be amazed at how often the changes by one spouse can impact the unwilling spouse enough that he/she softens toward their spouse, marriage, and the even the idea of counseling. I believe in taking control of what you can control and that is only you, no matter the situation. Respectfully, Kim