How Shame Ruins Your Life, and How To Change It

I hate shame, and I hate cancer. Want to know the correlation? I hate cancer because it kills by ravaging the body and leaves families without dads, mothers and siblings. It is difficult to treat, and it sometimes goes undetected until it is too late. Shame is emotional cancer, and I hate it just as much, […]

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Divorce season is almost here. Don’t get caught by surprise.

January is divorce season. I know this is a harsh reality.  Right now, this is the time of year when most people are thinking of the upcoming holiday menus, shopping lists and time with family. But for my practice, it is the calm before the storm. January is our busiest time of year. Some of […]

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The Blame Game: Why We Need to Stop Playing

Playing the blame game is poisonous Blame is poisonous for personal growth because it allows you to keep the focus on someone else. Even worse, it forces you in a victim position because you can’t control the person you are blaming. That means you have no control over the painful situation and keeps you stuck. […]

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How To Tell Your Spouse You Cheated

how to tell your spouse you cheated If you used the ever popular Ashley Madison site you may soon be busted. Hackers have gained access to millions of names and they are threatening releasing these names to the public if the site isn’t shut down.  Ashley Madison makes millions of dollars a year.  They aren’t […]

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Can I Forgive My Spouse?

Forgive my spouse? Really? If you are married, you have to learn how to forgive your spouse.  It is impossible to live with another human being for very long without someone getting hurt. But sometimes we are faced with a situation that goes far beyond the normal day-to-day grievances…like an affair. Forgiveness is tricky business. […]

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