When it comes to marriage, free speech is essential. You should be able to be honest with your spouse, to express your opinions without constantly filtering them. That freedom allows us to really connect with one another. It’s part of the trust that we need to feel safe and secure in our relationships.
Most of us are spending more time than ever with our kids and spouses and tensions are rising. As therapists and coaches, we are seeing your struggles. We are also dealing with the same stressors in our own homes. The people we live with are getting on our nerves and we don’t always handle it the way we should. Many of us are apologizing almost daily for the things we’ve said or the ways in which we’ve said them.
A perfect marriage is simply two people who are willing to be transparent, vulnerable and work it out. They remember their commitment and, at times, trade immediate happiness for a lifetime partner who they can trust to be there and with whom they can raise a family – through the easy seasons, where less effort is required, and the seasons that are quite frankly, hard as hell.
The use of remote technology has grown exponentially and is now being used for everything from business meetings to online school to doctor’s appointments and counseling sessions. While The Marriage Place has offered online services for a number of years, we too, have seen a huge uptick in the number of clients electing to utilize online sessions for their work with us. After all, it is easier than ever to do and provides so key benefits making it the perfect option for many couples.
Would it surprise you to know that most people find themselves torn between staying in the marriage or staying with the affair partner? Having an intimate relationship with two people simultaneously means you’ve likely become emotionally attached to both of them. Letting go of either one will bring about feelings of grief and loss.
Feeling your feelings sounds redundant, but in a world used to suppressing unwelcome emotion, it is something to strive toward. When we are angry, grieving, or having other negative emotions, we are told to look on the bright side. Most of us have a very low tolerance for emotional discomfort (ours and someone else’s) so painful feelings are often avoided. The problem is that avoiding them comes at a high price physically and mentally.