Improve Communication With Your Partner Using this Simple Exercise
August 08, 2022
I wanted to follow up on a previous post about getting ‘stuck in the courtroom’. A reader posed the question on Facebook and asked for examples of how to improve communication and avoid getting stuck in their marriage.
Implement this simple exercise
It’s just three simple sentences.
- “When _________.”
- “I feel __________.
- “I want __________.”
How to use it in action:
Speak your feelings and wants very clearly. For example:
“When you said you’d get home at five and you came home at eight, I felt angry, disrespected and overlooked. I want your words and actions to match so that we can build trust.
This seems so simple, but yet it can be very difficult without practice. Be sure for your feel statement that you only use adjectives – either a single word or no more than two or maybe three words. For your want, it should be a short sentence that gets right to the point of what it is that you want to be different in the future.
You may also like:
The Myth of Happily Ever After
THE MYTH OF HAPPILY EVER AFTER June 18, 2013What makes a happy relationship? It basically comes down to one word – expectations. When our reality matches up to our expectations, we consider ourselves happy. The greater the disparity between expectations and reality,...
Is My Partner Controlling?
Is My Partner Controlling? June 9, 2013Being in a relationship with someone who is controlling can be very difficult. Most of us have seen someone who was with a “control freak” and we wondered how they got themselves in that situation and why they put up with it....
When Your Spouse Wants A Divorce And You Don’t
Are you in a marriage you want to save but your spouse is ready to call it quits? Please understand and remember that these are actions YOU need to take.
0 Comments