What is a sexless marriage?
March 9, 2018
Do you feel you aren’t getting enough sex in your marriage?
It’s actually a common problem. Listen as Kim talks about what causes a sexless marriage and what you can do if you are in one.
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Rick, I think I get where you are coming from on this. Ideally, I think you are right. Having both parties on the same page and willing to commit to counseling – and even more importantly, willing to look at their own stuff – is the best-case scenario. Where I diverge from your opinion though is that, UNLESS both are willing, nothing can be accomplished through counseling for the betterment of the relationship. I disagree. Our counselors, and even more so our coaches, work with individuals looking to change, improve and even rescue, their marriage in situations where their spouse is entirely unwilling to do so. This is a much tougher scenario but it’s not a hopeless one. In fact, you’d be amazed at how often the changes by one spouse can impact the unwilling spouse enough that he/she softens toward their spouse, marriage, and the even the idea of counseling. I believe in taking control of what you can control and that is only you, no matter the situation. Respectfully, Kim