When a couple isn’t making significant improvement within 3 to 5 sessions, we start to look for what else may be blocking progress. These “blocks” may be an undisclosed affair, limerence, addiction issues, or untreated mental health issues such as depression, anxiety or mood disorders.Almost all self-defeating behavior like this stems from pre-existing conditions – painful emotions and feelings resulting from childhood experiences.
These childhood experiences can impact our daily life and our ability to have healthy functioning interpersonal relationships. They can also distort our perception of ourselves and others and therefore can be a contributing factor to a couple’s on-going struggles. You must address self-defeating behaviors before your couple’s counseling will truly be effective with lasting changes.