When we get a couple that isn’t making significant improvement within 3 to 5 sessions, we start to look for what else may be blocking progress. These “blocks” may be an undisclosed affair, limerence, addiction issues, untreated mental health issues such as depression or anxiety or mood disorders. Any self-defeating behavior has to be addressed before couple’s counseling will be truly effective with lasting changes. We call these issues pre-existing conditions because self-sabotaging behaviors were present before the relationship even if they weren’t noticed.
Almost all self-defeating behavior stems from painful emotions and feelings that are the result of childhood experiences. Some people have experienced significant trauma and abuse at the hands of their caregivers and this creates problems for them as they try to navigate their current relationships. Many others do not have those overt traumas in their past, however they did not receive enough affection, attention or appropriate limits.
While this is not blatant abuse, research shows that anything we experience in those developmental years from birth to 18 that is anything less than nurturing, can create deep trauma wounds that keep us from maintaining functional relationships as adults. These more subtle wounds are called “relational trauma” and they have significant impact on our abilities to love ourselves and others.
The 3-day Breaking Free workshop is for you if you experience any of the following:
- anger or rage issues
- depression and/or anxiety
- problems with emotional connection and intimacy in your relationship
- persistent feelings of hurt, rejection or loneliness in your relationships
- problems setting appropriate boundaries with others
- problems expressing yourself appropriately
- feelings of inferiority and uncertainty in your relationship
- perfectionist tendencies
- any addiction issues including substances, food, sex, porn, gambling, gaming, etc.
- persistent fears of abandonment from your spouse, kids or friendships
- a pattern of choosing people to be in your life who are not good for you
- you are currently in an abusive relationship
- you struggle with low self esteem
Our breaking free workshop has often been described as “transformational” and “life changing”, the equivalent of months, maybe years of therapy received in three powerful days.
Our three day workshop is an intensive, experiential process that is modeled by the ground breaking work of Pia Mellody and The Meadows in Wickenburg, Arizona. During this workshop, participants will explore the origins of their relational trauma that occurred from birth to 18 years of age. Participants will learn how to release painful emotions and learn the process of re-parenting the parts of themselves that have been shamed, neglected or abandoned and reclaiming their rights and personal power.
The workshop is limited to small groups , no more than 5. It is done in three phases.
Informational: There is a lot of education and training on relational trauma and how it causes developmental immaturity. Participants will learn the 5 core areas of their lives that are often affected and how to establish moderation in those areas.
Debriefing: This is where we explore each person’s individual childhood experiences to see where trauma occurred, the developmental age at the time of the trauma and how it relates to the difficulties experienced today.
Experiential: This is where we learn how to release the painful emotions and free ourselves to fully be present in our lives and to open ourselves to give and receive mature love.
Cost is $1,800 – does not include lodging or travel expenses.
50% required to reserve the spot. Balance must be paid 2 weeks before the actual date. Cancellations made up to two weeks of the workshop date are fully refundable less a 20% service fee. After that date, no refunds will be given but you may reschedule your workshop one time to a future date.
Where: our office
Time: 8:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. on Thursday and Friday. 8:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. on Saturday.
*Please note that these dates are subject to cancellation or change if the workshop does not have enough registered participants.
- January 19-21 (closed)
- February 16-18 (closed)
- March 23-25 (closed)
- April 20-22 (closed)
- May 18-20 (closed)
- June 15-17
- July 13-15
- August 3-5
- September 21-23
- October 12-14
- November 9-11
- December 7-9