I just want to put this out there. The way your system works, is a little one sided-at first, and even afterwards, if needed. I got a ton of flack for this. Many people asked me how this was going to work if I am the only one working on the issues. I wondered as well. As you and I shared, when one person is willing-or feels compelled to change the dynamic of the relationship, it motivates the other to do the same. This may not be the case in all, but if a person is motivated by your program' s initial ideas (what to do when one spouse wants out of the marriage but you don't) I see how this works. I have explained to many, my personal results are astounding. While still early, I will feel secure knowing that you are by my side. ️
I highly recommend Kim Bowen and her staff at The Marriage Place for couples counseling and family therapy.
The Marriage Place is a fantastic resource for any couple facing challenges, whether small or large. They are friendly, professional and dedicated to helping people. I couldn't recommend Kim Bowen and her team of therapists more highly
—A in Frisco, TX
Our previous "marriage counselor" told my husband that our kids were not a reason to stay married so he filed for divorce. I was devastated. I thought we were over but Kim helped us find each other again. I will be forever grateful, Kim, for your passion for marriage.
Susan, after working with you, I did everything we discussed. My wife left town for a month and when she returned, she saw all the changes I had made. We started spending more time together and when it was time to talk to the mediator, she told me she didn't want the divorce. We kissed for the first time in 5 months!!! We are now going to counseling and things look better each day. Thank you!
—CC in Plano, Tx
You ROCK, Miss Kim! Thanks so much for all the times you listened and all the great advice you gave me. I was headed for trouble in an abusive relationship and you showed me how self-destructive I was being! I didn’t want to see how controlling he was because I loved him and “stupid girl” was not willing to see common sense. You showed me how to know the difference between loving someone and being infatuated. Now, I’m in a healthy, loving relationship. Think what I would have missed out on if we hadn’t done the work together? You are amazing! Love and Hugs!
—B in Dallas
That's what we tell our friends. It wasn't always an easy ride, coming to recognize our shortcomings and those deep-seated insecurities that drove us to react rather than communicate. But it wasn't always rough either. In fact, our 1-year journey with Kim was mostly fun and in the end, such a wonderful blessing to realize that we DID marry the right one, and that we COULD have a marriage rooted in acceptance and honest and constructive communication. If nothing else, my husband and I are more mindful partners. Even today, nine months later, we try to put into practice the communication tools we learned in our sessions with Kim. Thank you, Kim, for giving us the safe forum we needed to tackle those barriers, the tools we needed to open our minds and the foundation of healthy habits we build upon even today to help us grow happily in our marriage.
—B in Plano, TX
I was skeptical when you told me to stop "chasing her". Dear Kim, One year post therapy and we are still going strong. I still can't believe that less than two years ago my wife asked me to move out of the house. She was convinced it was hopeless and things would never change. I was skeptical when you told me to stop "chasing her". I couldn't imagine how giving her space would help her love me again but it worked! As you know, what started as marriage counseling with only me ended with us both committed to the process. Thank you again for all your help and the compassion you showed us. I never would have believed this last year was possible when I contacted you the first time.
Can't say enough wonderful things about The Marriage Place! They literally helped save my marriage... It's not one of those 'So how does this make you feel' type of counseling. They not only listen, and give feedback, but insist on specific daily exercises to teach you & your partner to communicate (positively) again. It's not about who's to blame anymore ~ it's about moving forward, forgiving & learning to appreciate again! Sam John rocks!
—J in Plano, Texas
Thank you, Kim, for all the time you took with me and for holding my hand when I needed it. Sometimes that required you to take late night phone calls or come in on a weekend to help me get through the crisis. I know I always have a place I can come when life gets too overwhelming.
—K in Richardson, Tx
My boyfriend and I came to counseling because we couldn’t stop fighting about the same damn stuff. The fights would get so bad we would break up, stay apart for a few months and then get back together. I got tired of the rollercoaster and I was getting too old to waste my time in a relationship that was going nowhere.It’s been a year since we’ve seen you and guess what???? We got married five months ago! Kim, we are so happy. On our honeymoon (in Hawaii…wink wink), we toasted you over dinner one night.
—A & J in Plano, Tx
After 25 years of marriage, two nearly grown kids, and busy, stressful jobs, we had hit a low in our relationship with each other. We didn’t talk and certainly didn’t communicate. We had quit having fun, both separately and together. It had become easier to just stop trying and with that, problems and resentments had started to grow. Both of us were having doubts about the future of our marriage although neither of us would admit it to the other. With Kim, we discovered someone who quickly and intuitively got to the heart of our problems. It wasn’t the usual “you need to learn to communicate” story. Kim helped us identify our own individual issues and challenges and showed us how those fed into the relationship. From that she helped us see the resulting behavior patterns and the cycles that followed. Kim gave us unfaltering guidance and support, made sure we stayed on track, and made sure we never “weaseled out” just because it was difficult and often painful. She gave us the right setting, taught us the right tools, and made sure that our approach with each other was always loving and respectful.
—J & T in Sachse, Tx
My wife and I found this process engaging. It required a commitment on both our parts. We learned how to build a foundation for a healthy marriage that is long lasting. We didn't have major problems. We just weren't communicating. Kim helped us look at ourselves in a safe, non-threatening way. Both of us have already recommended her to family members we know who are struggling.
—KP in Richardson, TX
Kim, I just had to take a few moments to say 'thank you' for what you did for me and especially for us. You were indeed a God send, when all was lost, you were injected into our lives. You drove hard and forced me/us to deal with life changing issues and deal with myself, someone I really didn't know. Even in tough sessions, your tender heart and true compassion shown through. I will be forever grateful for all you did under the true guidance of the Lord. Words cannot say enough or the right thing that would express my appreciation. Thank you for new life and a renewed marriage.
—A in Rowlett, TX
Kim, Thank you for all the work you’ve done with our son. We were referred to you by our school counselor because our son had severe anxiety. Before he started therapy, he was having a lot of stomach issues and was often throwing up. He was having trouble getting to sleep at night and told us he was “obsessing about everything”. You worked with him for about 6 months and he is doing so much better. He doesn’t worry as much and the stomach issues are gone! I just have to tell you it is an added bonus how much better he gets along with his brother. It is so nice to have peace in the house again. It was obvious you loved our child and helped him so much. I just don’t have words to say how much more relieved I am knowing he is a happier kid. Thank you!!!!
—M in Richardson, Tx
My wife and I have tried marriage therapy before. It wasn’t particularly successful but I didn’t realize what we were missing until we came to see Kim. We had some particularly powerful “ah ha” moments that I think were life changing but Kim helped me see that this thing called “marriage” was something we could figure out and do on our own. Glad I didn’t give up after the first attempt at marriage therapy. We are still figuring this out but I really do think we are going to make it.
"God has blessed this place with the greatest of people like Susan Rutledge. A true caring friend. Thank~you, not only for helping us save our Marriage but for helping me find my best friend again. You'll be in our hearts forever..."