How to make marriage last forever

How do we make marriage last forever? There is a concept with marriage in our society that I just don’t get.   It is the idea that when attraction leaves, the marriage is over.   Or when you don’t feel IN love anymore, it is time to move on.   This seems crazy to me. […]

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What Not Having Sex Does to Your Marriage

Not Having Sex A lot of couples I see in my office eventually end up sharing that they’re not having sex. Lately, I’m seeing a lot of angry, shut down men. That’s a good clue for what is really going on. When a couple isn’t having sex, it is usually the wives who initiate therapy. They […]

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I Never Loved You – How to Respond When Your Spouse Says This Hurtful Phrase

“I Never  Loved You.” If your spouse has said this to you, I’m sorry.  It is incredibly painful to hear.  At one point I said this in my own marriage, and my husband still remembers how it made him feel all these years later.  Those words devastated him.  He just couldn’t wrap his brain around them.  […]

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Marriage Problems? You’ve Lost that Loving Feeling. Here’s How to fix it.

So many of the marriage problems I see are because one spouse just doesn’t “FEEL” in love anymore. So you think you’ve lost that loving feeling? I don’t mean to be disrespectful…but so what? This won’t be my most popular post, and I am expecting some backlash but I can’t hold this in any longer.   […]

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How I almost ruined my family’s life by asking for a divorce. {A letter to my younger self}

Many years ago I almost ruined my life.  Even worse, I almost ruined my kids’ lives by seeking a divorce. There was a dark period in my marriage when I swear I think I lost my mind.  It is the only explanation I have when I look back at my actions and my feelings.  I […]

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