I Never Loved You – How to Respond When Your Spouse Says This Hurtful Phrase

“I Never  Loved You.” If your spouse has said this to you, I’m sorry.  It is incredibly painful to hear.  At one point I said this in my own marriage, and my husband still remembers how it made him feel all these years later.  Those words devastated him.  He just couldn’t wrap his brain around them.  […]

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How I almost ruined my family’s life by asking for a divorce. {A letter to my younger self}

Many years ago I almost ruined my life.  Even worse, I almost ruined my kids’ lives by seeking a divorce. There was a dark period in my marriage when I swear I think I lost my mind.  It is the only explanation I have when I look back at my actions and my feelings.  I […]

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A Marriage Counselor’s Secret Confession

I’ve been married 25 years.  I’ve devoted my life and career to helping people save their marriages.  I constantly train in the latest modalities and theories to better equip my clients, which also better equips my own relationship.  I’m pro marriage and I hate divorce.  And yet…. Sometimes I fantasize about divorcing my husband.

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Not Sure If You Want To Stay Married Or Get Divorced?

This is a BIG decision with long term consequences. There is a lot to consider. Should you go? Can you afford to divorce?  The average costs in the US for a divorce today is somewhere just under $20,000.  I’ve heard of people doing it for much less but only if everyone agrees on the details […]

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