All posts by Susan Rutledge

Are They Really “Just Friends”?

“I am telling you, we are just friends! Why don’t you trust me?” Your gut tells you one thing, your partner tells you another. Explanations of all the incoming texts, the heavily guarded phone, and late night social media sessions don’t quite add up. Your partner is adamant there is nothing going on you should […]

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Roommates or Soul Mates? It May Be Time To Up Your Bid

Does the relationship with your spouse feel more like roommates instead of soul mates? Are you two caught in the day-to-day grind, just communicating the necessities? Are you trying to initiate a closer bond, but feel pushed away or ignored? Time to up your bid. A “bid” is a fundamental unit of emotional communication and […]

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How Even Close Relationships Can Eventually Fail

Relationships fail when couples have more negative interactions than positive ones.  I see many couples who come to counseling because they feel distant and lonely.  They describe their marriage as starting out intimate and playful until one day they realize they aren’t even friends anymore.  One question they invariably ask is “How did it happen?” […]

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Are You Feeding Your Partner’s Pig?

Have you ever been overdrawn at your bank?  Even if you diligently track each deposit and withdrawal, it is possible to make a mistake and find yourself in the “red”.  You usually know fairly quickly when this happens because your bank stops covering your checks and they contact you immediately by email, phone calls and […]

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