WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE STUCK IN AN UNSAFE HOMEApril 3, 2020
- Fear of exposure to the virus may impact the survivor’s willingness to seek help or treatment.
- The abuser may use the virus as a scare tactic to keep the survivor away from the kids or from visiting supportive family members.
- Social ties are temporarily severed. Allies outside the home that may have noticed or reported the abuse are no longer seeing them every day.
- The abusive partner may withhold access to household disinfectants and soaps to create fear; or withhold insurance information to prevent the survivor from seeking medical treatment.
- Travel restrictions may impact their ability to execute their safety plan.
- Shelters, counseling centers, and other support organizations may have reduced services; or going to such places would put the survivor at increased risk for exposure to the virus.
- Loss of income or recent unemployment can make the victim more financially dependent on the abuser, and therefore more difficult to leave the abusive situation.
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Can you laugh at yourself? I mean really laugh at yourself when you make a mistake or do or say something silly? What about when your spouse or friends tease you in a good-natured way? Are you able to laugh then?
When it comes to marriage, free speech is essential. You should be able to be honest with your spouse, to express your opinions without constantly filtering them. That freedom allows us to really connect with one another. It’s part of the trust that we need to feel safe and secure in our relationships.