Monthly Archives: June 2013

“Just Friends” or Something More?

There are two basic types of affairs: the affair that is based on sex and nothing more and Cheating his wife, young men chatting with his mistress while his wife sleeps the affair where there is emotional attachment.  Both are detrimental to a marriage but the emotional affair is harder for both partners to recover from.  The thing about the emotional affair is that it can happen to anyone, anytime and anywhere.  In fact, studies show that emotional affairs often happen to people who consider themselves happy in their marriage.  Good people with strong moral convictions in good marriages have affairs.  If that’s true, how does it happen?  How does a loving spouse find themselves emotionally and physically involved with someone other than their mate? It starts with being “just friends”.
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The Myth of Happily Ever After

 

Cinderella-and-Prince-Charming-disney-couples-6708288-336-333What makes a happy relationship?  It basically comes down to one word – expectations. When our reality matches up to our expectations, we consider ourselves happy.  The greater the disparity between expectations and reality, the more unhappiness we feel.  This can be bad news for our relationships in a society that sets the bar of expectations so unrealistically.

Women seem to be particularly vulnerable to the fairy tale spin on relationships in books and movies.  “Chick Flicks” and romance novels have taken the place of the fairy tales of our youth.  If we buy into the fictionalized view of men and relationships portrayed in this media form, we will be forever discontent and left longing.  Virile men and constant mind-blowing sex sell a lot of books and movies, but it isn’t the reality of a long-term relationship.
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